The Importance of Being Lauren

I follow A LOT of dating accounts on Instagram. I started following them after I realized that I have a lot of deficits in my knowledge about dating. It has been helpful in figuring out what my red flags (icks) are and correcting improper behaviors. As I noted in my last post I am terrible about ending things because I hate to be perceived as mean. I thought about all the guys that have ghosted me on the apps and I decided that I don't want to be that person.  I reached out to dates #11 and #12 today and wrote them heartfelt messages thanking them for the dates we went on but telling them that I don't think we are a match. Both responded right away and thanked me for letting them know. It felt like a relief to communicate and not lead them on. They are both really nice guys and I am grateful that I met them. As I have gone through my brief dating journey I have learned that I don't have to convince myself to like someone just because they like me. I know that the first date...

This summer has been a ton of fun! I did some traveling, started therapy again, and finally got the diagnoses I suspected for a long time.  The Best: Visiting friends and family in Houston, NYC, and Wyoming. While my trip to Houston was plagued by roaches, rats, and a city wide power outage, I still enjoyed time with my grandparents, aunts, uncles, and my childhood bestie (shoutout Mags). My mission companion and I explored Wyoming and South Dakota together. We haven't spent that much time together in almost 10 years. It was so nice to visit her and her family. It was such a relaxing weekend filled with new memories, funny quotes, hiking, and landmarks to mark off my bucket list.  NYC I went to visit my best friends before their baby comes on September 3rd. We spent time organizing and decluttering the apartment. I also got to see a few of my old coworkers. One of them had a baby a few months ago and it was so nice to hang out with him and his family.  Starting therapy an...

I took a short break from dating apps for a few weeks but I am back on the grind. I haven't been on a date since before my Wyoming trip in mid-June but heavens knows I have been talking to a lot of people. I know a lot of people say that dating is a numbers game but this is getting ridiculous. I have had 97 (as of 07/16) matches on Tinder since I redownloaded a week or so ago and I am trying to be proactive about messaging. Out of messaging 97 people I secured 1 date, have had consistent conversations with 7 guys, and been unmatched 5 times.  Actual footage of me clocking into my second full-time job messaging men on dating apps.  Date #11 was so nice. He took me to an ice cream place in Ogden and we walked around downtown while we ate and chatted. I got a chocolate and cherry flavor and he got something minty. It was a nice time. We talked about movies, school, and our cultural backgrounds. He called me out for taking forever to respond to text messages (to be fair, I am usua...